Month: July 2019

Behaviors and Motivations (Part 1)

Behaviors and Motivations (Part 1)

What’s your personality type?  Do you know?  Have you completed one of the many personality assessments out there, for better understanding yourself?  Many, who search for a better understanding of themselves have journeyed to know more about who they are so they may glean some connection to understand why they exhibit certain characteristics. The problem is that leaping from knowing your personality type and why you exhibit certain characteristics are more assumptive than conclusive. 

What we are looking for is an opportunity to understand why we behave the way we do, and what is the connection between how we behave and our motivations for behaving in the manner that we do? When we can understand these to elements, we can begin to create a clearer picture of who we are, and the relationship between our motivations and our behaviors.

If we take it one step further, since we strive to have certain things in our lives, which are natural to our needs, these strivings are likely being driven by a set of pathological behaviors that are unique to each individual. The motivations associated with these behaviors, and the behaviors themselves are consistent with maintaining one’s self-worth and are considered personal strengths which are unique to all individuals.

As we move beyond our understanding of our motivations and behaviors, we must understand that to function in the world we must learn to relate to others to be successful in our strivings. As such, we now must consider our behaviors when relating to others. How we see them, and how they see us. The challenge here is when we are free to pursue our gratifications, that we seek from others. Others will be seeking their gratifications as well. As we stated earlier, we all strive to maintain our self-worth and feel good about ourselves. 

When we face some opposition to our desire for our own needs and gratifications, that opposition becomes a threat to our well-being and creates a conflict with the person or persons that we are relating to. This conflict undermines predictable behavior and takes us to a place where we are observed as having varied behaviors, that are less predictable. We now relate differently, and at some point, wish to preserve some sense of self.

Next time…Strengths and weaknesses, and what we discover about ourselves help us to understand others.

Conformity and Leadership

Conformity and Leadership

Employees must wash their hands before returning to work. All construction workers must wear safety vests while on the job. Most of us have seen these signs posted in bathrooms, or are normal expectations required by law. Conformance in this case focuses on meeting the expectations of external scrutiny though compliance of various laws along with standards of governance.

Performance however calls for expectations about the achievement of the corporate objectives. Strategic activities seeking to maximize the benefits that flow to the shareholders and stakeholders. Conformance brings accountability, responsibility, and demonstrates a willingness in obeyance of laws. Performance has a strong leadership element attached to it, as it dovetails the executing of business activities, and consequently, it has  more of a business orientation attached to it.

Conformance is considered a value protecting pursuit, whereas performance governance is about value creating, to essentially create long term value for shareholders and to implement the corporate strategic plan. They both feed into the other.

Conformity in the Workplace – Advantages

A company who has uniform expectations of employees creates a basis for the offer of recognition. Conformance becomes a distribution activity for opportunities with success in a more even way. Employees are more apt to recognize and appreciate these opportunities, as a result. Rewards, and recognition are the result of conformity in the workplace.

Conformity in the workplace leads to significant cooperation among groups both small and large. Shared expression, the sharing of ideas become easier as the company lingo gets spread around. The collective works better as they embrace a shared vision. Harmony is another benefit of collective style focused businesses. They feel a stronger sense of identity with their teams and groups. Lastly, when attitudes attached to conformance exist and are applied, i.e. following an employee handbook or the posted set of rules in the lunchroom, the employees, make work run smoother, and much more efficiently.

Conformity and a Leader’s Influence

Organizations that require their employees or branch offices to maintain a company standard of achievement has substantial advantages over an organization that doesn’t. As leaders we must keep our focus on the goals, and hold the vision. Building relationships, enlisting key people to carry out the directives, and aligns with expectations of team members, in a way that empowers employees with the why of the vision, and how working together can bring about a solid brand, and enhance a sound marketing strategy.  The influence of the leader is supported through conformity of the expectations, building team unity, and creating other leaders by following through with expectations built on value for the team member.

Your thoughts=Your results

Your thoughts=Your results

The Law of Attraction states that what we think about becomes our reality.  But it also means that what we think about is drawn to us, and comes into our consciousness, by proportion to how much we think about it.

Have you noticed those people who are always negative?  Are always finding something wrong with everyone else, and judge them for it? No matter what is happening for them, they can always find something wrong or something to dislike about someone or something. If you’ve noticed these folks, then you may have also noticed that they complain about their lives as well. It’s likely they are attempting to make others look bad, so they won’t have to admit that their lives are not all that great. 
A life full of negativity, and resentment of others will lead to a negative life and resentment for the life one lives.

On the other hand, have you noticed that people who are successful are happy, or at least seem happy?  The truth is they see everything through a lens of happiness. They find the happiness or the goodness in the things they see. They find the good in all that they see. Gratitude, and no resentment go together. I life well appreciated is a life well lived.

We have a choice, every day. We can see the world through whatever lenses we choose to put on.  Finding something good in everything is not easy at times, and sometimes it really requires effort. However, finding goodness in everything will bring you and I goodness in everything. Its an attraction thing!