Behaviors and Motivations (Part 1)

Behaviors and Motivations (Part 1)

What’s your personality type?  Do you know?  Have you completed one of the many personality assessments out there, for better understanding yourself?  Many, who search for a better understanding of themselves have journeyed to know more about who they are so they may glean some connection to understand why they exhibit certain characteristics. The problem is that leaping from knowing your personality type and why you exhibit certain characteristics are more assumptive than conclusive. 

What we are looking for is an opportunity to understand why we behave the way we do, and what is the connection between how we behave and our motivations for behaving in the manner that we do? When we can understand these to elements, we can begin to create a clearer picture of who we are, and the relationship between our motivations and our behaviors.

If we take it one step further, since we strive to have certain things in our lives, which are natural to our needs, these strivings are likely being driven by a set of pathological behaviors that are unique to each individual. The motivations associated with these behaviors, and the behaviors themselves are consistent with maintaining one’s self-worth and are considered personal strengths which are unique to all individuals.

As we move beyond our understanding of our motivations and behaviors, we must understand that to function in the world we must learn to relate to others to be successful in our strivings. As such, we now must consider our behaviors when relating to others. How we see them, and how they see us. The challenge here is when we are free to pursue our gratifications, that we seek from others. Others will be seeking their gratifications as well. As we stated earlier, we all strive to maintain our self-worth and feel good about ourselves. 

When we face some opposition to our desire for our own needs and gratifications, that opposition becomes a threat to our well-being and creates a conflict with the person or persons that we are relating to. This conflict undermines predictable behavior and takes us to a place where we are observed as having varied behaviors, that are less predictable. We now relate differently, and at some point, wish to preserve some sense of self.

Next time…Strengths and weaknesses, and what we discover about ourselves help us to understand others.

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